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Womanhood and femininity development crises.
This topic excites me quite a long time. Site for nearly three years. And I see many women first get a positive result, and then roll back happens, the crisis. Before a woman gets a choice:
1. Continue no matter what
2.Prodolzhayu, but I’ll do an audit
3.Komu need this femininity?
Most often selected first and third options. In any case, these are the most common letters – in a post on the forum, in conversation. Yesterday I came across a forum thread that discussed – and quite rapidly in this topic. Thanks to her, I wanted to reiterate the dark and light bands in the development of women. And the maturity.
Many of the girls, reading a book or a website, they see the image of the “ideal woman” thus: “I’m a girl, I do not want to decide anything, I want platishke». Is it their fault or the emphasis placed not entirely accurate?
When I started writing, I was writing about himself. My way is that I have grown up boy. And the harmonious girly I did not have. But I always swing right at home, at school – everywhere.
For me, it was easy to deny someone who I did not like. Resolve something in me a lot. I refuse to always easy – and almost everything. Is that her friends were not so easy. Was easy for me to break the relationship that hurt me.
But I could not both. I do not know how to ask. Pay for myself in the cafe. Did not make any first steps – even for the reconciliation did not know how to forgive, apologize. And to maintain the relationship, too. For me it was a categorical – either-or. Or, in my opinion, or goodbye.
So on the way I learned what you do not know how I am – because of my development. I revived a little girl, which is easy to ask, cry, blow. And also easy to make peace again, wonder and laugh. With that I was difficult. Oh well it was – still sometimes find myself thinking that somewhere it would be easier … But the very force myself-did ask. Because for the family – where there is not just me – it will be better.
A separate topic for me was the theme of service. I’m an only child who never strained household chores. And did not know how to cook by themselves, and with washing floors was not friends. Used to think only of themselves (and who else to think if my mother at work and at home I?). Always carry an apple from the fridge. Then I remember that I am not alone. And take at least one more apple. Even if the husband refuses – it will be nice.
How to bring back the harmony? Find harmony in their femininity girls the right age to you – maybe kids friends or acquaintances. Or maybe your girlfriend this period lived differently. And look, like that at this age the girl is. Do not mindlessly copy and fanatically, and try on.
Whether I like this no?
Can I like this at all give up and go to the movies with loved ones?
Can I ask like this and thank you?
Can I dress up yourself and enjoy it?
If I could talk about their desires?
And try. Try to refuse. Seek comfort to themselves and others form of denial (will not immediately). Look for ways to revive a girl – if you need spontaneity. Look for ways to dress up so as to bring you pleasure.
Does not that help people? Not to serve as a husband? Do not cry? Do not wear dresses?
Let’s not bigotry in all. Whether you like to help – to help. But start to help yourself. Every day. Asking yourself, “how can I help you today?”. And maybe one day you will leave his Superman cape at home, paying attention only to itself – the study and adoption.
Serve husband. As much as you can. So that while you are still alive.
Weep. When you want. And if you do not know how to cry – sometimes try to raise your voice. At least for a pillow. To try – how is it?
Wear a dress. Such as you like. Not everyone is comfortable right away in long. Diarrhea girly knee. Revile your favorite pants so if you want. This is not a boarding Clothes should bring you pleasure – and of seeing himself in the mirror as well.