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Womanhood and femininity development crises.
This topic excites me quite a long time. Site for nearly three years. And I see many women first get a positive result, and then roll back happens, the crisis. Before a woman gets a choice:
1. Continue no matter what
2.Prodolzhayu, but I’ll do an audit
3.Komu need this femininity?
Most often selected first and third options. In any case, these are the most common letters – in a post on the forum, in conversation. Yesterday I came across a forum thread that discussed – and quite rapidly in this topic. Thanks to her, I wanted to reiterate the dark and light bands in the development of women. And the maturity.
Many of the girls, reading a book or a website, they see the image of the “ideal woman” thus: “I’m a girl, I do not want to decide anything, I want platishke». Is it their fault or the emphasis placed not entirely accurate?
When I started writing, I was writing about himself. My way is that I have grown up boy. And the harmonious girly I did not have. But I always swing right at home, at school – everywhere.
For me, it was easy to deny someone who I did not like. Resolve something in me a lot. I refuse to always easy – and almost everything. Is that her friends were not so easy. Was easy for me to break the relationship that hurt me.
But I could not both. I do not know how to ask. Pay for myself in the cafe. Did not make any first steps – even for the reconciliation did not know how to forgive, apologize. And to maintain the relationship, too. For me it was a categorical – either-or. Or, in my opinion, or goodbye.
So on the way I learned what you do not know how I am – because of my development. I revived a little girl, which is easy to ask, cry, blow. And also easy to make peace again, wonder and laugh. With that I was difficult. Oh well it was – still sometimes find myself thinking that somewhere it would be easier … But the very force myself-did ask. Because for the family – where there is not just me – it will be better.
A separate topic for me was the theme of service. I’m an only child who never strained household chores. And did not know how to cook by themselves, and with washing floors was not friends. Used to think only of themselves (and who else to think if my mother at work and at home I?). Always carry an apple from the fridge. Then I remember that I am not alone. And take at least one more apple. Even if the husband refuses – it will be nice.
A simple exercise.
Take your photos from different years. And so, make a list for yourself:
3 months – child (wonder boy or girl)
1 year – a boy
2 years – boy
3 years – boy
6 years old – girl
9 years – boy
12 years old – boy
16 years – a girl
18 years old – a boy
And you will see that your female stays skipped some steps, but somewhere it was all good. For example, when I was 6 years old, I loved the dress. For some reason, loved them. At the same time grown a pigtail. And suddenly began singing in the choir (a strange coincidence, right?). But in the seven years I went to school – and again was a boy with a bowl haircut. With the same sense of self. With the same friends and family.
At 14 years old when I first fell in love, I asked my mother a beautiful boots – well remember this moment. And while I was passionately fond of football – in boots of play was pathetic. So football was my passion as a spectator only. This phase lasted a year, and at that time I had a lot of fans. Just half the class confessed to me his feelings.