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Womanhood and femininity development crises.
This topic excites me quite a long time. Site for nearly three years. And I see many women first get a positive result, and then roll back happens, the crisis. Before a woman gets a choice:
1. Continue no matter what
2.Prodolzhayu, but I’ll do an audit
3.Komu need this femininity?
Most often selected first and third options. In any case, these are the most common letters – in a post on the forum, in conversation. Yesterday I came across a forum thread that discussed – and quite rapidly in this topic. Thanks to her, I wanted to reiterate the dark and light bands in the development of women. And the maturity.
Many of the girls, reading a book or a website, they see the image of the “ideal woman” thus: “I’m a girl, I do not want to decide anything, I want platishke». Is it their fault or the emphasis placed not entirely accurate?
When I started writing, I was writing about himself. My way is that I have grown up boy. And the harmonious girly I did not have. But I always swing right at home, at school – everywhere.
For me, it was easy to deny someone who I did not like. Resolve something in me a lot. I refuse to always easy – and almost everything. Is that her friends were not so easy. Was easy for me to break the relationship that hurt me.
But I could not both. I do not know how to ask. Pay for myself in the cafe. Did not make any first steps – even for the reconciliation did not know how to forgive, apologize. And to maintain the relationship, too. For me it was a categorical – either-or. Or, in my opinion, or goodbye.
So on the way I learned what you do not know how I am – because of my development. I revived a little girl, which is easy to ask, cry, blow. And also easy to make peace again, wonder and laugh. With that I was difficult. Oh well it was – still sometimes find myself thinking that somewhere it would be easier … But the very force myself-did ask. Because for the family – where there is not just me – it will be better.
A separate topic for me was the theme of service. I’m an only child who never strained household chores. And did not know how to cook by themselves, and with washing floors was not friends. Used to think only of themselves (and who else to think if my mother at work and at home I?). Always carry an apple from the fridge. Then I remember that I am not alone. And take at least one more apple. Even if the husband refuses – it will be nice.
Mature woman – a woman who:
Knows itself – his temper, his features
He knows the desires and knows how much to
Do not hold evil, resentment over past
Builds his life the way she likes and does not like the neighbors or the novel
Grateful to the world for what has already
Knows how to ask for and give thanks for the help
Able to refuse to say “no” to what it is not suitable
Knows how to be wise and to see the future of their actions
Forgiving mistakes close
Able to forgive myself my mistakes
Knows how to apologize, if hurt someone
Able to express their feelings – both good and bad – a safe way to others
Can wait and let
He likes to be alone with him, and always knows what to do
Do not shift the responsibility on others for his life – its problems are not to blame her husband, children, parents or society
Do not take the blame and responsibility for other people’s lives, not trying to become God for others
When she does not like something – it changes itself, knowing that so effectively
Knows how to make choices in their lives, each time highlighting the important and sweeping away unnecessary
Shared with the world the love of his fullness, not of the deficit and not to get my
Takes himself completely – such as it is
Knows that life – no marmalade bar. Therefore able to adequately pass crises
Knows the meaning of life and of why this life she needs. Perhaps that is what gives her the strength to go through the trouble?
Being next to a woman – a pleasure. And not just for men. But first of all to herself.
Such a holistic way inside does not work out with you for two weeks. Even a year is not enough. Because it is a profound work, it’s a long way to go. And there is no magic pill. Unable to wake up one day a. However desirable to reduce the distance to the goal.
Maturity is not possible to adopt, it can not be “addicted” inside. Maturity comes with living. Living his life, awareness of its uniqueness. Maturity comes with experience.